Hello! Here is a reminder of what challenge #6 was all about:
Show love to your siblings by being flexible in something that you would normally fight over. Tell them that you are going to choose to put them first and do what they choose.
Ok, so………..it didn’t really go so well for me. It wasn’t as easy as I expected and I sure did want to give a successful report on how I did. However, my report is not all that successful and a little embarrassing. But, maybe someone out there can be helped by this, so here it goes:
There were several attempts to be flexible and “bend” like the palm trees, and I almost made it, but it ended in sarcasm and leaving the room in a huff to show how unhappy I was. My mom said that I’m not quite there yet. Other times, I just let it loose and argued…..I’m not proud of it. It took me a little too long to realize it though, and by then it was too late. It really can sneak up on you. Looks like I need to spend more time in Proverbs for strength and wisdom.
What I did learn is that there are plenty of chances to be flexible with our siblings, they are around every turn.That can be overwhelming, but it can also be a lot of second chances. We aren’t perfect and we mess up, we need second chances. I also know now the most common things we argue about. So I can be on the lookout and be more diligent on staying flexible.
My mom had two of my siblings take the challenge as well. Here are their results:
Julia – age 12
“My mom asked me to write a guest post about Kolby’s challenge. She thought everyone could use this challenge, even the grown ups. The challenge was about “taking the high road”, making a choice to let someone win an argument for the sake of peace. I actually don’t remember a time when I did this. This made me feel a little silly and embarrassed. I spent time this last week working on this, and I read and re-read James 3:17 and Philippians 2:4. I thought about some ways that I can do this when the situation arises:
1. Offer to choose their ideas
2. Help them make a decision
3. When faced with an argument, say ok and move on. With a smile.
“I think this might take a while. My parents said that it is a hard and worthwhile characteristic to have and it doesn’t always come easy, but that we will be so much better off and blessed by having it. ”
Ben – Age 10
“One day last week, my mom was going to the library and I really wanted to go. My brother Kolby looked like he was getting ready to go, too. So, I asked him if he would want to go with my mom alone, to have one on one time. This is something that we always argue about, but not that time. ”
Those are the results. I would really like to hear how some of your challenges went. Am I really the only one who has a hard time not being flexible? Come on, let’s hear it.
Keepin’ the challenge,